Jobs, the New Men

Dear Advice Girl,
I just broke up with my job. It wasn't working for me, and so I finally said "we're through." But now I miss what we had - I miss the money, the long walks through the cold to our evening meetings, the frantic phone calls. I even miss the effort I had to expend to keep us on the same page about our relationship. I know that this was the right decision and that I need to start over and find a new job, but it seems so daunting. How do you recommend that I begin again?

Sincerely,Looking for (New) Love

Dear Looking,
You’re right, break-ups are rough. But in this case, you must stay strong and remember your reasons for splitting. Clearly some needs (like a regular paycheck) were not being met, and in the end, it’d be worse for both of you to stay in such a relationship. Your job is not mature enough for you right now, and you don’t want to be an enabler for bad behavior.

Like all new relationships, you’ll want to take your time getting into a new one. Look around for a while, make sure it’s right for you, don’t be blinded by a fancy title and loose promises of fast promotion (you know, those rich and good-looking jobs). Also, don’t discount the internet. Although some prefer the more traditional set-up-by-a-friend method, many people have found lasting job happiness with internet match making.

In the meantime, consider a fling with Starbucks to keep the rent covered. Good luck!